In Search of a Mentor

I really want a mentor.

I’ve been thinking about this for probably twenty years, and it brings a twinge of sadness to my soul that I’ve never found a person who matches my understanding of what a mentor is. To me, a mentor is someone I really connect with, who understands me as I show up, and who wants to invest some time into the project that is me. (I have. It’s my wife! But she’s not my mentor, as I’ll get to in a moment.)

The Challenge of Dennis

I know I'm not easy to categorize. I'm quirky, sometimes difficult. I have several bad habits that are hard to shake.

But that’s just part of my personality. Knowing what I value most—family, wisdom, creativity, authenticity, and connection—I tend to seek opportunities for growth overall. And that is why the yearning for a mentor is a long, unfulfilled fixation.

Mentors Beyond Mentorship

I have had a lot of luck in having incredible people come into my life and offer opportunities, advice, and share their consistent belief in my potential. I could not have achieved such a rich life without the many people who have invested time and energy in the project that is me.

Many of you who have played a pivotal role in some way are likely aware of your contributions. I’ve tried to send sporadic notes of appreciation to anyone who has lent a helping hand or a listening ear over the years. (There are many more notes to write and thank yous to come!)

My concept of a mentor differs from the types of mentorship and support I've received and sought out over the years. Each has shaped me profoundly, but in different ways. To understand what I'm seeking, I need to first acknowledge what I've already found: